Relationship Guidance

creating home together

“In love the paradox occurs that two beings become one and yet remain two.” - Erich Fromm

If you are at a crisis point in your relationship but committed, my in-person Immersion experience would be an option to explore. We will work one on one over 2-3 days to bring deep healing to your connection.

The Journey Here

Working with couples has been one of those calls of the soul, when the mystery of alignment and deep fulfillment merge in ways you could never have been fully planned.
I started college thinking I’d be a micro-biologist…

This journey has, in turn, had many iterations and forms. Recently, I thought my time focusing on couples had reached its completion.

I was wrong.
It was only changing form once again.

I feel relieved and grateful. I also feel clear.
While I no longer seek to work with highly escalated couples, I’m called to guide committed couples in strengthening and deepening their relationship.

So that together you can create a home that is rooted in trust, love, and so much joy.

This is the medicine I believe our world is currently in great need of.

And it all starts in the home.

  • A Different Approach

    I work to get to the true core of distress and disconnection. So, at the end of our work together, couples feel change that lasts.

    I am compassionately direct and my interest is in guiding you both into your heart through helping you deepen your trust and capacity for honest communication.

    I never commit to “Saving Relationships or Marriages.” Frankly, that’s none of my business. Sometimes relationships need to end.
    I’m OK with that.

    What’s most important to me is that you both are living true to yourselves, able to expand and grow. That you feel alive and vibrant. A healthy relationship is in service to this.

    Together we’ll learn how to cultivate a dynamic and way of being that supports this.

  • Birth Transitions

    Through each and every birth, the family is reborn. And the first birth of a child, is the biggest transition a couple will ever face - when two become three (or four if you have twins!).

    I can help you navigate through this profound threshold crossing as a couple, assisting you in moving consciously into the roles of Mother and Father, together.

    In addition, I will help you both through the postpartum season which by the way isn’t just 6 weeks… it’s at least three years. And it doesn’t only affect mama. Dad’s need care too.

    It is a wild season perhaps the wildest adventure you’ll ever undergo. Having a guide feels essential.

    *I carry specific perinatal experience and training see my about page to read more

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  • Pre-Marital/ Non-crisis Work

    I believe all relationships need space to intentionally reconnect, strengthen, + clean out what has accumulated.

    The healthiest couples report a consistent practice of investing in working on their relationship.

    So don’t wait for a crisis.

    And begin cultivating a way to nourish your relationship from the start.

    This is a beautiful wedding or anniversary gift!
    See also my intensives as a getaway experience.

Testimonials

Jessica's ability to lovingly guide us to "stay" in the inevitable moments of tension and high emotion as well as her ability to "see" exactly what we needed as the process unfolded was just so beautiful and artful. She supported and guided us through the entire journey, we never felt rushed or forced, yet she held us accountable to the process and allowed us to discover and experience ourselves and one another through new eyes. She helped us design what we want to create organically, and gave us so many tools to continue to practice and work with as we transitioned back into the "real world".

We are forever grateful. After 35 years of marriage, and 15 years of struggle we finally feel like we are back on track for a healthy and happy future together.

Jessica saved my 20 year marriage”. I hope my review can put someone on the same path my husband and I took all those years ago. Jessica Waclawski was that therapist. She is extraordinarily intuitive and empathic. She lead us to rediscovering the love we had for each other. Being seen, understood and heard is the essence of what we strive for in our relationships, including a relationship with a therapist. Jessica saw and understood us both, two people who completely take on life differently. It’s her innate ability to meet you where you are that established trust and belief that there was hope. When the pandemic sent us to meet with Jessica virtually, I had zero faith we would be able to work with her anymore. I was completely wrong. Even through the computer screen, Jessica was able to pick up on the nuances of our communications with each other. If you’re willing to commit to the process (which can seem a little unconventional to those of us caught up in the fast paced lives we lead) it may lead you back to the person you believed you would to go through life with. I am a better person in my marriage as well as in my life outside it having worked with her

WANT TO DIVE INTO
STRENGTHENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP?

CONSIDER AN IMMERSION EXPERIENCE

I believe that when we are securely and intimately connected, we can then be of powerful service to our families and communities. 

Interesting to consider isn’t it?

How strengthening our bonds to our partners could correlate to a much bigger impact?

One that can benefit our families, our communities, our world? 

I believe that without tending to our closest bonds, we actually CAN’T be of effective service and will struggle to carry out the soulful calls and missions we feel most drawn to. 

YOU IN?
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I work best with couples who:

  • are able to commit to consistent sessions. Research shows 12 sessions to be a break through point, where a couple can navigate the challenges of doing deep work together and experience emerging from that process lighter and more connected. I request new clients be ready to commit to a minimum of 12 sessions.

  • are willing to take ownership for their role in the relationship and seek growth. Continually blaming another will only impede a path forward.

  • are open to feedback and able to take direction. My biggest critique of typical therapy is that it goes no where. This is often because it ends up being enabling of negative dynamics because therapists are overly validating. My clients recognize my directness and how I deliver feedback with compassion to help you go forward.

  • want to have fun, try new things, and break old patterns! This experience does not have to be arduous or only “hard work.” In fact, there’s a lot of laughter and joy shared in the process. That’s the power of moving into our hearts!

Important Note:

Couples counseling is complex and dynamic.
Making it imperative that professionals guiding couples through healing be well skilled + carry specific experienced through specialized training.

Jessica has over 15 years of dedicated experience working with couples. Her work has been reviewed by peers and experts in the field. She invested in postgraduate studies tailored to relationship dynamics while also obtaining full certification in Emotionally Focused Therapy, an intensive process that takes years of dedication and having her work reviewed by experts. Consider it as a second Master’s degree.

She has also broadened her scope of study through additional approaches such as Gottman, Imago, and Jungian theories along with somatic work to assist with effectively moving through trauma.
She is also deeply intuitive and weaves this guidance into her work which adds the artful approach her clients often describe.